Philosophy for Life
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Philosophy for Life
How To Earn Respect In A Relationship
Affection may spark attraction, but it is respect that holds that relationship together, because the way two people honor each other's boundaries, values and individuality will determine whether their love grows or collapse, because respect is earned by consistent action that communicates care, growth, integrity and a willingness to value oneself and their partner. In today's video, I'm going to talk about how you can earn respect in your relationship and maintain it. Hi, I'm Coach Deron. I help people break toxic cycles, rebuild themselves and live the life that they truly deserve. If anything that I say to you resonates with you, feel free to leave a donation. There's a link in the comment below. I'm also meeting with my subscribers. If you have a story to tell or a question to ask, there's a link in the description below. I look forward to meeting with you. Also, like comment, hit the subscribe button and also turn on your notification bell. This is just going to help the channel grow and I'm going to be able to get great guests onto this show, but anyways, let's get into it.
Speaker 1:So, first off, respect starts with you. If you don't respect yourself, it becomes close to impossible for someone else to respect you. Respect is shown in the way that you carry yourself, the standard that you set and the boundaries that you enforce. A person who constantly sacrifices their own needs, ignore their values or mistolerates mistreatment sends an unspoken message. I don't believe I deserve better. Let's say, for example, that one person constantly cancels their plans to hang out with the other person. Over time that relationship becomes imbalanced. What started off as kindness over time becomes erased. A relationship, a healthy relationship, requires compromise. But compromise doesn't mean abandoning yourself. By respecting yourself, your own time, your goals, your needs, what you are communicating is that you do not lose your identity in love. That kind of self-respect sets the tone, because you're showing that you value yourself, which will make your partner value you as well.
Speaker 1:Respect depends heavily on boundaries. Boundaries are not walls that keep the love out. Boundaries are fences that protect the relationship from disrespect, resentment and overreaching. Saying no is not rejection, it's clarity. For example, let's say one person wants to spend time with friends and the other person becomes jealous and wants constant updates. A boundary is required. I need space to spend time with my friends without constantly being questioned. Boundaries also mean honoring your partner's limits. If they ask for time alone, give it to them. If they find a certain topic painful or or they share sensitive information with you. Don't weaponize it. Boundaries are healthy because they help balance closeness and individuality. Without them, the relationship falls apart.
Speaker 1:And I'm going to wrap everything up with this. Here's the truth. Traditional relationships and the way that we currently understand them are out the door. Relationships and the way that we currently understand them are out the door. Honestly, the way that we see traditional relationships that only lasted two to three decades in the 50s and 40s, maybe the 30s. Traditionally, men and women were the providers. Women were out in the fields, Women were out in the fields, women were working in the home, women were cooking food and women were sewing clothes. Yes, of course, men did the heavy lifting, but the point that I'm trying to make is both people were providers. Women were supporting the family just as much as the man were, and not only that, the children also were doing things to help the relationship excuse me, help the family stay above water Today.
Speaker 1:Mutual respect and growth is the key to a healthy relationship, and growth is the key to a healthy relationship. You may have heard this statement before, but you have to love in a way that your partner feels free. We don't need each other for survival anymore, but we do need each other. There's no better union than the love that a man and a woman has for each other, and controlling your partner, that's just not going to work. There's a lot of powerful entities out there today that are trying to pin men against women and women against men and pointing the finger and saying men need to do this and women are like this. It all comes down to immaturity. You have to be willing to grow and learn with the person that you're with. When your person wins, you win. There is no competition in this relationship. Collaboration is a must.
Speaker 1:If you happen to get with somebody who wants to be in that traditional 50s role, or she's a stay-at-home mother, you're working all day and she's at home with all the kids Great, awesome. But in most cases, people don't even have the money to make that work and in a lot of cases, women don't want to be at home all the time. Lot of cases women don't want to be at home all the time. Honestly, in my opinion, from what I've seen is that when people have a lot of idle time let's say whether they're a stay-at-home parent they just have a lot of time for their mind to to wander, and that's usually, typically, that's when people infidelity happens. That's when you know your girl starts looking at the guy that's cleaning the pool, or the guy that's delivering the mail, or the guy she meets at the gym. You know people need purpose and women live in a day and age where they can actually have purpose and pursue that purpose.
Speaker 1:So, as a man, you should be, you should, you should want that. You shouldn't want everything to be on your back. You know you want to be in a relationship where you two want that. You shouldn't want everything to be on your back. You want to be in a relationship where you two are teammates. When you're working, one of you guys lose your job, you know the other person can step in and take care of the bills temporarily while you find another job. Partnership is the key to today's relationship.
Speaker 1:I've had a few phone calls and one of the calls that I had specifically, the woman's man was in competition with her. He was jealous of her success and he put the kids against her. What's that all about? It comes down to self-respect self-love Because when you don't have that, there's no way that you can give that to your partner and you need to love yourself in order to have a healthy relationship. I hope that you guys felt this. If there's anything you want me to talk about, just leave it out in the comments. Anyways, like comment subscribe and I'll catch you next time. Peace.
