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Philosophy for Life
Why Women Fall in Love with Narcissistic Men
Have you ever wondered why smart, capable women find themselves trapped in relationships with narcissists? The journey almost always begins like a fairy tale—intense charm, passionate connection, and a feeling of being truly seen. But beneath this enchanting surface lies a calculated strategy designed to capture and control.
Coach Deron takes you through the full cycle of narcissistic relationships, from the initial love-bombing phase to the gradual erosion of self-worth that makes escape so difficult. Drawing from psychology and real-world experience, he explains how narcissists specifically target women with unhealed trauma—whether from childhood experiences or previous relationships—and deploy tactics like gaslighting, guilt-tripping, and intermittent reinforcement to maintain their psychological grip.
The most heartbreaking aspect of these relationships is how they transform vibrant, confident women into shadows of their former selves. When your reality is constantly questioned and your flaws magnified, you begin to forget who you once were. Your entire sense of worth becomes tied to pleasing someone who can never be satisfied. This breakdown of identity, more than anything else, creates the trauma bond that makes breaking free so challenging.
But there is hope. By recognizing the early warning signs—excessive attention too soon, lack of accountability, patterns of blame-shifting—you can protect yourself before becoming emotionally invested. And if you're already caught in a narcissistic relationship, understanding these dynamics is the first step toward reclaiming your power and rebuilding your authentic self. Remember that seeking help isn't weakness; it's often necessary when your confidence has been systematically dismantled.
Subscribe for more insights on breaking toxic cycles, rebuilding self-worth, and creating the life you truly deserve. Have these patterns appeared in your relationships? Share your experience in the comments below.
Falling in love with the narcissist can often feel like a fairy tale the charm, the intensity, the passion and over time this fairy tale turns into a trap, leaving many women wondering how they got stuck in a cycle of manipulation. In this video, I'm going to break down why women fall in love with narcissists and how to avoid the trap. Hi, I'm going to break down why women fall in love with narcissists and how to avoid the trap. Hi, I'm Coach Deron. I help people break toxic cycles, rebuild their self-worth and ultimately live the life they truly deserve. If there's anything that I say that resonates with you, feel free to buy me a coffee. There's a link in the description below. Also, I'm currently meeting with my subscribers. In the meeting we talk about your story, you can ask me any kind of questions and we can just have a cool conversation. So if you're interested in that, there's a link in the description below. Also, 75% of you guys are not subscribed to the channel. Hit the subscribe button, turn on your notification bell, leave a comment. It all helps the channel grow and I can have great guests on this show. But anyways, let's get into it.
Speaker 1:Let me start off by telling you how narcissists enter your life. In the book the Laws of Human Nature by Robert Greene, he stresses that people should be aware of someone who's too quick to be their friend. This person is giving you a lot of attention. This person is giving you a lot of attention, giving you a lot of compliments, and on a surface it may feel good, you may not even think anything of it, but deep inside you know that somebody that you just barely known shouldn't be treating you like you're their best friend, like you. Guys have known each other for years. Now. Although the example I provided isn't a romantic relationship, it still applies when you're dating a narcissist. In a lot of cases they'll love, bomb you. They'll make you feel like you're the most important person in the world. They'll give you plenty of attention. They'll text you all the time. This person, basically, will make you feel like you're the center of their world.
Speaker 1:The women who open the door to these kind of men are women who have their own set of issues. That could be issues from their childhood. It could be daddy issues. It could be that they didn't get enough love, affection or attention in their childhood. It could be because they didn't process a previous relationship. Whatever the case, the women who are dealing with this unaddressed trauma. They're more susceptible to the charm of a narcissistic man.
Speaker 1:Narcissistic men tend to have common tactics Gaslighting, gaslighting. Gaslighting is when they try to make you doubt your own reality, to make you question your own memory. They do this because they're trying to break down your confidence and your self-esteem. Doing this allows them to get control of you. Over time, they will guilt trip you. Allows them to get control of you. Over time, they will guilt trip you. One day, out of the blue, they'll accuse you of doing something you know you haven't done, like cheating, like talking to other people or checking someone else out. You know that you're not guilty of any of these things, but the reason that they're blaming you in most cases cases is because that's what they're doing. They feel guilty for their own actions and they try to find a way to justify them by saying oh, I'm talking to somebody else, I'm sure she's doing the same thing. People who do this, they have a fear, or they just they have a lack of accountability, and that's when they begin to blame shift. They'll try to find a way to flip whatever kind of wrongdoing they did on to you, or they may say something like well, I wouldn't have done this if you didn't do that, or you're taking this way too serious or I was just kidding. They do this to take control the situation and, over time, this can make you feel like your needs and your boundaries aren't important.
Speaker 1:You find yourself in a relationship full of cycles, highs and lows. You remember the beginning of the relationship. You remember the good times. You remember the way they made you feel. You remember the things that they did for you. This person raised your energy. They gave you new life, and you remember how your life was before them. Maybe you were lonely, maybe you lacked life, and you remember how your life was before them. Maybe you were lonely, maybe you lacked confidence, maybe you had low self-worth, but this person changed all of that. They had you look forward to the next day, and then one day they took all of that away from you.
Speaker 1:They leave you craving for more. They dangle a carrot over your head, occasionally rewarding you with an I love you text, a hug, some kind of affection mixed in with criticism and abuse. This is known as intermittent reinforcement, and this is what keeps you stuck in the trauma bond. You see, this bond will leave you hoping for a change, you'll believe that the good side of the narcissist is the real side and the bad side is only temporary. We all know stories of heard of someone say something similar to this that they're with this bad guy and their family is always telling them to leave. They complain about the guy, they tell you all the horrible things that this person is doing, but they just don't get up and go.
Speaker 1:You see, when your confidence has been broken down, walking away, speaking up for yourself, closing the door can be very difficult to do, not because the action itself is difficult to do, but because she lacks the energy. When your energy is broken, when your reality has been distorted, when you are at such an emotional low, it's hard to do the things you know you could do, things you know you should do, things you know you should do. Over time, you don't remember who you are. Constant criticism and abuse it lowers your self-worth. Over time. When you constantly second-guess yourself and magnify every single flaw, a woman can start to doubt her own judgment. Slowly she stops remembering the person that she used to be Confident, independent, strong, whole. Her sense of self-worth is tied up in pleasing a narcissist, trying to avoid conflict and trying to gain the love that they were once freely given, and over time, she can forget her own needs, her own goals and her voice.
Speaker 1:You see, the way to break free from a narcissist is to recognize the patterns. The first time you see a red flag, the first time they lie to you, the first time they try to gaslight you. You don't have to end it right away, but take note, make sure you communicate your boundaries, make sure you point out exactly what it is that they did. But what you want to see is a pattern. You want to see if this is something they keep on doing. Do they continue to not take accountability? If you find yourself in that situation, I strongly suggest getting out early, before you get attached to this person. If you're already in a relationship with somebody that's like this and you feel like your self-esteem is low, your confidence has been broken and you're struggling, leaving this person, it's okay to reach out for help and in most cases you will have to. Anyways, I'm Coach Deron Brown. If anything that I said resonates with you, feel free to leave a comment. Make sure you like the video and I'll catch you next time. Anyways, peace.
