Philosophy for Life
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Philosophy for Life
Self-Respect Starts With You
Respect isn't something we receive—it's something we give to ourselves first. The way we value our time, boundaries, and voice establishes the standard for how others will treat us in return. When we abandon ourselves to please others, we create a dangerous pattern that damages our relationships and mental health.
Have you ever found yourself constantly available, overgiving, and ignoring red flags in a relationship? Many of us do this because we rarely meet people we genuinely connect with, so when we do, we're willing to sacrifice our needs to keep them around. But this approach teaches others that their needs matter more than our own, leading to canceled dates, delayed responses, and eventually, disrespect.
Learning to enjoy your own company is transformative. When you love yourself, maintain your interests, and lead a fulfilling life, people naturally respect you more. Setting and honoring boundaries isn't just about romantic relationships—it applies equally to friendships and family. Sometimes, walking away from people who repeatedly disrespect your boundaries is necessary, even when it's painful. Remember that the right people won't leave because you have standards.
Balance is essential in healthy relationships. Maintaining your identity, friends, and hobbies makes you more attractive to your partner and creates the space where love thrives. As Coach Deron explains, "Just like music happens between the notes, love happens in the space between you and your person." This space allows both partners to miss each other, think about each other, and build anticipation that sustains attraction.
Ready to transform your relationships by first changing your relationship with yourself? Subscribe now and join a community of people breaking toxic cycles and building the lives they truly deserve. Share your experiences in the comments—I'd love to hear from you!
Respect isn't something that's received. It's something that you give to yourself first. The way you value your time, your boundaries, your voice sets the standard for how people are going to treat you. In this video, I will cover how people lose respect within romantic relationships. If you're new to my channel, I'm Coach Deron. I help people break toxic cycles, rebuild themselves and ultimately build the life that they truly deserve. If anything I say resonates with you, feel free to buy me a coffee. There's a link in the description below.
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Speaker 1:One thing that we must learn is to stop being a people pleaser. We're all taught to be kind, to be nice and being respectful is a good trait that everybody should have, especially within relationships. Being respectful is a must on both sides. But here's the problem. The problem comes when you put people's needs before your own needs. You're trying to make everyone else happy and sacrificing your own happiness. Self-abandonment is the worst crime that anyone can commit. When you abandon your needs, your desires, your boundaries, your voice. Ultimately, that leads to self-destruction and damages your mental health. We rarely meet people that we like and because of this, we try to do everything we can do to keep that person around. We think by doing more, by giving more, by being more available, that this is going to help us keep that person, but we're actually teaching the strangers that their needs are more important than our own, and this is what leads to issues within your relationship. This is why people don't text you back on time. This is why people cancel dates. This is why people start to abuse you in the relationship, because they didn't do anything to have to earn you in the first place. You do these things because you're afraid of being abandoned. You're afraid of being alone.
Speaker 1:One of the most powerful things that anybody could ever do is learn how to be alone. Learn how to enjoy their own company. Learn how to be your own best friend. When you're good to yourself, when you love yourself, when you like yourself, you like your life, you have a full life. You have great hobbies. People can see that and they can feel it. They can tell when someone values themselves and most people, when they see that they're going to respect it.
Speaker 1:People will occasionally try you and test your boundaries. See what they can get away with. That's human nature. Some people are just wired to lean in that direction. But it's your responsibility to check someone to let them know that they can't treat you any kind of way, and the first way to do that is by not being a people pleaser.
Speaker 1:You want to be respectful. You want to be kind to others because you want others to be kind to you. But being kind doesn't mean sacrificing who you are to make other people feel comfortable, not speaking up when you need to speak up or being willing to walk away when somebody doesn't treat you the way that you want to be treated. Believe me, the right people will not walk away for you having a standard. Next, you must honor your boundaries, and this is true for all relationships, not just romantic relationships. You must honor your boundaries when it comes to your friendships. You must honor your boundaries when it comes to your family relationships. Ultimately, people will treat you as good as you treat yourself. If you're good to yourself, if you love and respect yourself.
Speaker 1:People have no choice but to love and respect you as well or to walk out of your life, and that's the way that you want it. You want people in your life that are going to treat you the way you deserve to be treated, who are going to treat you the way you deserve to be treated, who are going to protect your mental health, instead of those who are going to bring you down, say disrespectful comments or make you feel like your voice is important. You see, this all comes down to self love. It's easy to point the finger at somebody else, when they say something that we don't like, when they treat us a certain way we don't like, but we keep those people in our life. Are they responsible or are you responsible? You see, you always have a choice. Maybe not when you're a child, because you can't choose your family, but once you're an adult, you have a choice of who's supposed to be in your life, regardless if that's blood.
Speaker 1:I want you to ask yourself have you clearly communicated your boundaries? When those boundaries weren't respected, did you walk away? See, the sad part is that sometimes you have to walk away from people that you love the hardest. The hardest relationships to walk away from are our romantic relationships. When we've invested time, money and energy into somebody, when we shared our body with somebody, when we're connected to that person, it's very hard to walk away from those relationships, but it's a must, because sometimes the people who abuse us the most are the ones that we love. In order to get the kind of relationship that you truly deserve, that you want, you have to be willing to walk away from bad behavior.
Speaker 1:When somebody like the saying goes fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. And a lot of us have been in repeatedly, repeated toxic relationships. It's drained our energy. We don't recognize who we are. But is it really that person's fault? Relationships it's drained our energy. We don't recognize who we are. But is it really that person's fault or is our fault for staying in that relationship for a year, for two years, five years? Somebody commented that there was somebody for 40 years and just discovered the person's a narcissist. Are they really a narcissist or did that person just get used to abusing you because you just put up with it?
Speaker 1:Ultimately, you are responsible for the people you allow to stay in your life. So if you're going to point the finger at anyone, make sure you point the finger at yourself, because you could always make a decision out of righteousness. A lot of you guys are making fear-based decisions. You're afraid that if you speak up, if you do something, if you rub this person the wrong way, that they're going to walk away from you, that they're going to leave your life. So you cling on to them, but that clinging is what ultimately makes them want to walk away. You never know what speaking up will do.
Speaker 1:A lot of times, by setting boundaries, speaking up, being willing to walk away, you're protecting that relationship. That person is connected to you as well, Biologically, mentally. If you were to walk away from that relationship, that person is connected to you as well biologically, mentally. If you were to walk away from that relationship, after a certain amount of time, they're going to be thinking about you, they're going to get feelings for you and if they really want to be with you, they will make those corrections. You just have to be willing to make the hard moves and say the hard things. So make sure that you prioritize your boundaries.
Speaker 1:Lastly, don't make your person your entire life. Now I know you've done this at some point in your life that you found somebody that you like, somebody that you have a strong connection with, and you abandoned your friends, you abandoned your hobbies. This person became your everything Because the connection was so strong. You guys text all day, you hung out every day of the week, but what you have to understand is that for a relationship to maintain that attraction to each other, to ultimately be healthy and also to protect you, you need to balance space and distance. Let me explain.
Speaker 1:In a relationship, there's always somebody who wants more space or more closeness within that relationship. Okay, when the two of you meet, you have no idea what that person's attachment style is. You don't know if they're more anxious, if they're more avoidant. Hopefully they're secure. But you really can't control that. Even somebody that's secure, a person that is secure, wants to be with somebody else who's secure. And by being secure you have to enjoy your own time, your own company. But when you abandon everything about you, those relationships, your hobbies, you're killing the attraction within the relationship.
Speaker 1:Having a life of your own, having your own hobbies these make you more attractive. It gives your partner a chance to admire you, think about you on your way and believe it or not. Just like music happens between, in the space between the notes. Love happens in between the distance of you and your person, the amount of time that you guys have in between dates where you can think about each other. That's where love happens. That's where the excitement happens. It's when you look forward to the next date, look forward to the next time to share what happened during your week with that person, or just look forward to seeing that person's face.
Speaker 1:In a relationship, less is more. I've spoken to a few of you and a few of you you have. You're talking to the person every day. You're investing more in the person, in some cases that you're even like giving money to this person. All of this is an investment. When you create space between you guys, when there's distance between you guys, you have enough time to think, and then you also, because you're patient with yourself, it protects you. It gives you enough time to really understand and get to know this person, see what this person is about, see how they treat you when they're with you and then also see how they treat you when they're not with you. So then you can make a better decision on if you want to be with this person or not.
Speaker 1:When the relationship is healthy and the two of you are actually want to be with each other, the two of you will figure out how much space and how much closeness you need within that relationship. How much time do you guys need to spend with each other for you guys to feel safe in that relationship, and then how much space do you need to keep your sanity? A lot of you ruin relationships before they even get started because you're quick to jump in bed with this person. You're quick to have two to three dates a week with this person. You're quick to go on vacations with this person. Hell, some of you guys are even quick to have a family with this person.
Speaker 1:You want to build something that's special. Over time, when somebody's right for you, they will be there. You don't have to force it. They'll want to be in your life. You guys will find ways to make things happen, but remember, maintaining the relationship with yourself is the most important relationship. Don't abandon who you are to just make something work. A relationship will never work that way. A lot of you are in healthy relationships and they become toxic because you've built up habits of self-abandonment, you've abandoned your voice and you've also then set boundaries with people which made them lose respect for you over time. They may love you. They may have treated you better if you would have had the strength to keep your power. So I hope this video truly resonates with somebody. If you agree or disagree, leave a comment below. I'd love to hear from you. Anyways, this is Coach Deron. Thank you for listening. Like comment. Subscribe. Peace.
