Philosophy for Life
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Philosophy for Life
Why Women Stay In Abusive Relationships
The question that sparks judgment: "Why do women stay in relationships that hurt them?" While outsiders see obvious solutions, those trapped in toxic relationships face complex emotional barriers that aren't easily overcome.
Low self-worth creates a distorted lens through which women view their relationships. After investing time, emotions, and shared experiences, clarity becomes elusive. Many convince themselves that making unhealthy sacrifices is normal, failing to recognize the crucial difference between compromise that strengthens connection and sacrifice born from fear. When boundaries are repeatedly crossed, self-worth diminishes further, creating a devastating cycle.
Hope becomes another powerful chain. Memories of better times—those magical first dates, the honeymoon phase—fuel belief that the "real" person will return. Women find themselves settling for breadcrumbs of affection, treasuring rare moments of kindness that briefly resurrect the partner they fell in love with. This pattern teaches women their needs are excessive and their voices too demanding.
Fear manifests in multiple forms—financial dependency, safety concerns, worries about children. Abusers use intimidation as control, making threats when they sense their partner might leave. The terror that leaving could lead to worse outcomes—homelessness, violence, custody battles—paralyzes women into inaction.
The solution begins with self-love. Recognizing red flags early—jealousy, emotional instability, anger—and addressing them immediately through difficult conversations prevents entrenchment in toxic patterns. People ultimately treat you according to how you treat yourself. When you value yourself highly, you naturally attract those who reflect that positive self-regard.
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Why do women stay in relationships that hurt them? This is the kind of question that sparks judgment. We all know someone who has been in a relationship or should have ended a relationship a long time ago. In this video, I'm going to cover the core reasons why women stay in relationships that are abusive. Hi, if you're new to my channel, I'm Coach Deron. I help people break toxic habits, rebuild themselves and ultimately build a better relationship with themselves. If anything that I say resonates with you, feel free to buy me a coffee. There's a link in the description below. Also, I'm currently meeting with 50 of my subscribers. I've already met with a few of you. The purpose of meeting with you is so that I can create content that truly resonates with my audience. So if that's something that you're interested in, there's a link in the description to that as well. Anyways, let's get into it.
Speaker 1:One of the most obvious reasons why people stay in toxic, abusive relationships is because of low self-worth. Now, this looks obvious from the outside. Looking in, we can examine a relationship and we can tell like hey, that person isn't treating that person right, something, they should end this thing or she should walk away. But when you're in that relationship, it's very hard to see things clearly. When you invested time, money, energy, you've had shared experiences with this person, you've shared love with this person, when you've done all that with the person, it's hard to let go. You tell yourself hard times are normal when you're in a relationship. You're supposed to compromise, you're supposed to make sacrifices, but not all sacrifices are healthy sacrifices. Unhealthy sacrifice comes from the fear of losing this person. You fear that if I say this or if I don't do this, then I'm going to lose this person. You see, when sacrifice is unhealthy, typically you have one person giving and the other person just taking. See, healthy sacrifice, it comes from a position of choice, not pressure. When you make a decision, it actually strengthens the relationship without you losing your individuality. You see, unhealthy sacrifice leads to your boundaries being crossed, and when your boundaries are repeatedly crossed, that's what contributes to your loss of self-worth. Another reason why people stay in abusive relationships is because of the hope for change. You remember the first time you guys met. You remember all the fun you used to have, all the dates you had, all the shared experiences. And then, somewhere along the line, your boundaries are crossed and things never felt the same. Maybe those boundaries were emotional, maybe they were psychological, maybe they were physical God forbid and you knew that something doesn't feel right and maybe you should walk away from this relationship.
Speaker 1:You start having this internal battle, this internal dialogue. You're telling yourself well, he isn't always like this. Unconsciously, you start settling for breadcrumbs, you start looking forward to breadcrumbs. You're looking for that one moment where he actually hugs you, he holds your hand, he cooks you dinner, he brings you flowers and that's supposed to make up for all the bad things that he did. This becomes a pattern in the relationship, a pattern that you get used to. You convince yourself that that person is still there, that if you wait long enough, that good person will show up and show you the love that they showed you at the beginning of the relationship. But over time, if you settle for this, these occasional gestures, they chip away at your self-worth. And the longer you stay, you start believing that your needs are too much and that your voice is too loud. And all of this brings me to my last point.
Speaker 1:You see, when abuse becomes a part of the relationship, there can become a fear to leave. Sometimes that fear can be financial or it can be physical. A lot of abusers. They use intimidation to control someone. So if he feels like you're going to leave, he may threaten you. He may get verbally aggressive with you. There may be some kind of fear of him hurting you and if you have children, there can be fear associated with the children being hurt as well. But the fear within a relationship that fear of being physically attacked or financially not being able to defend yourself, financially, be able to take care of yourself will make you believe that maybe if I leave this person, things will be worse. There's a fear of if I walk away, I won't have any shelter for me or for myself or my children, and I may lose custody of my children. This is a tough spot to be in. You see.
Speaker 1:The best way to prevent this from happening is to pay attention at red flags. At the beginning of the relationship. People show you who they really are and there's always signs. So when you see those small red flags, don't ignore them. Pay close attention to them. Address them immediately. Does this person show signs of jealousy? Does this person show signs of emotional instability? Does this person show signs that they are emotionally hinged? They have anger issues? Just pay attention.
Speaker 1:You don't have to be so quick to jump into a relationship. I know at the beginning, when you really like somebody, it's easy to get sucked in. You spent months with this person and all of a sudden they show you one red flag and you want to avoid it because you've had all these other dates, all these other experiences with this person. But that's something that you should pay attention to and look for patterns. See how often that this shows up in the relationship. Speak up, don't pretend like it didn't happen or just keep it in your back pocket.
Speaker 1:If you're going to have a relationship with anybody, you need to have these hard conversations, so it's best to do that at the beginning of the relationship. You see people who are toxic, who have evil spirits. They know when they can get away with something. People will treat you the way that you treat yourself. If you're good to yourself, good people will come around you and they will reflect the way that you feel about yourself. But if you don't like who you are, people will take advantage of that. Sometimes people will, especially men. If they see a woman that's going through a hard time, they'll try to be their savior and you'll think that this guy is helping you, but that guy, he's using you in a vulnerable position. He's using your vulnerable position as a way to get close to you, to build some kind of connection with you, and when you're in that state you never know who you're really attracting Because you're dealing with your own issues. It's hard to see through all the smoke screens that this guy's throwing in front of you. You know the flowers, the attention, the constant text messaging whatever he's doing. It's hard to see clearly when you're dealing with your own issues.
Speaker 1:My point is this Before anybody loves you, you have to love yourself. You have to be comfortable being alone. You have to have a full life, have hobbies, be happy about who you are and what you're doing in your life. I know everybody's in a different situation and life can be rough, but whatever your position is at in life, wherever you have going on, you have to like who you are and to like where you're at before you attract the person into your life. Once you like you, once you like your life, it becomes a lot easier to see these red flags. Anyways, I'm Coach Deron. Like, comment, subscribe If you're interested in speaking with me. Like I said, there's a link in the description below and we can jump on the call. We could talk about your issue. Anyways, if you agree with anything I said, or disagree, leave a comment as well. Like comment, subscribe and I'll catch you next time, peace.
